How often do you hold yourself back from fully living the life you want? Make sure you have some form of escape hatch? Make excuses why you shouldn’t invest fully in what you are doing? Make sure you have some form of Plan B or backup plan?
These days everyone has a backup plan. In their relationship, career, education, and planning of everyday activities.
We have turned fear into a habit, a way of life. It has become so ingrained in everything we do that we can’t function without worrying about what could go wrong. This quote from Jen Sincero sums it up perfectly…
For the most part, when we watch someone take a leap of faith, our first reaction is to scream, “Look out!” We’ve not only made a habit out of smearing our fear and worry and doubt all over each other, but we pat ourselves on the backs for it because we believe that it shows how much we care.
”You Are A Badass” ~Jen Sincero
We see someone take a leap of faith and we panic! We want to yell and scream at them, asking them to stop and think about all the possible things that could go wrong. We want them to have a backup plan. We want them to know exactly what they will do if they fail. We are encouraging them to believe they WILL fail.
You start a new relationship and fall head over heels for this person. You have faith, trust, hope for a future with this person. Then your friends, family and insecurities creep in, saying things like ”What if it all goes wrong?” or ”What if you get hurt again?” So, you come up with a plan for WHEN it all falls apart. Sometimes that is keeping someone on the sidelines to jump into the next relationship with. Sometimes it’s making sure you know exactly where you will move to, keeping a secret bank account with money with the sole purpose of being there to help you start over. The point is, it’s your Plan B for when things fail, because you believe they will.
You jump into a new job or completely change your career to do something, and everyone asks ”What will you do if that doesn’t work out?” or ”Is that a long term goal for you?” maybe even ”How long is THAT going to last?!” So instead of throwing yourself into your work 100% and showing them what a badass you are, you start thinking about alternatives, next steps, and what you will do when this doesn’t pan out like the last five jobs.
You may want to go back to school, dye your hair a crazy color, plan a wild surprise party for your best friend, take off and backpack around Europe, or maybe even buy a tiny cabin in the woods where no one can bother you. But instead of jumping in feet first with no hesitation, you talk yourself out of doubt what your heart is telling you to do because you are convinced it’s going to fail in one way or another.
As long as you keep holding onto that backup plan or Plan B you will never believe in yourself enough to actually succeed or make it work. You are going to keep living in fear and NEVER live up to your potential.
What you should be doing is cheering yourself on in every single one of these situations! Tell yourself that you will be amazing, and that you can do anything you set your mind to. We don’t need a safety net, we need to be fearless. We need to believe in ourselves and each other wholeheartedly, passionately, and without compromise.
The truth is, you have infinite power, endless potential, limitless opportunities and countless options waiting for you to reach out and grab them! So why on earth are you wasting one second of your amazing kickass potential on fear?
Drop the backup plan, scrap the Plan B, and let go of the safety net. Sure, you might fail, but then again, you might just blow your own damn mind!