How often do you hear someone talking about an amazing experience they had, and sit there wishing it was you? How often do you tell yourself “maybe someday,” or that it’s “not the right time,” how about “I’m not ready?” Do you sit there and talk about things being on your bucket list… only to not actually HAVE a list? How many of your dreams have you given up on because you convinced yourself they were silly, far-fetched, impractical, or unrealistic?
We already know that tomorrow isn’t promised to us, that at any moment our lives could change drastically… or be completely over. We know that opportunities don’t just magically create themselves. And, we know we should focus on living our lives to the fullest, whatever that looks like to each of us. So why do we spend so much time worrying and making excuses, and not enough actively chasing after the things we want in life? What is the point in settling for less than we deserve and holding ourselves back from what we really want? What is stopping us?
No, seriously, what are we waiting for?
I can’t tell you exactly when or how it happened, but one day I realized I was tired. Tired of being afraid. Tired of hiding who I am. Tired of pushing off my goals and dreams. Tired of not believing in myself. Tired of feeling like my life in general was stagnant, and going no-where fast. Tired of not living up to my potential. So, I started to do something about it. Little things really, doing things that scared me, like letting more of who I am out from behind the walls I had built up. I started doing things I love and enjoy. Being real and raw and honest on multiple levels. I started pushing myself to do better, and set goals for myself. I started to see value in who I am, and what I want to do with my life. I sat down and wrote out an actual bucket list, and I am taking steps toward crossing things off of it.
I learned to live in the moment, while still planning for a future.
I figured out there is no time like the present.
I started living for me.
I realized I had a choice. I could continue living a sad small life, doing sad small things. Or, I could live a life full of challenges, adventure, heartache, success, disappointment, and joy. I could embrace everything life has to offer, and start building the life I wanted. Good, bad and everything in-between.
People are going to judge you no matter what, so why not do what fuels your fire, makes you happy, and gets you closer to where you want to be?
Go, take that class. Ask that person out. Save for that car. Apply for that job. Plan that vacation. Move to that city. Go buy that chinchilla, dye your hair electric blue, get the tattoo, or go BASE jumping if that’s what you want to do. Just do SOMETHING!
We need to stop treating our dreams, hopes and desires like something unattainable. We need to open our eyes and see the opportunities that are all around us every day. We need to run full force into the second chances that so rarely come along. Stop. Stop waiting for the right time. To be ready. For things to exquisitely fall into place. Because there is no such thing as the right time, you will never be truly ready, and nothing ever falls into place how you think it’s going to.
Stop being afraid of everything that can go wrong and start believing in everything that can go right. Sure, you might fail, things might blow up in your face, but at the end of the day, wouldn’t you rather know than to sit there wondering what would have happened if you had had just five seconds of magnificent courage?
I know I would.